How to get out of a funk

How to get out of a funk

April 27, 2018 0 By Sammarie

If you are like me, you have become well accustomed to the hard, marbly feel of rock bottom.

I always explain to my family that I can no longer count the amount of times I had reaches the highest peaks of my metaphorical mountains, only to slide all the way back down the the rough terrain that lays on the bottom.

Now, this isn’t the worst thing in the world. Because once at the bottom, you cannot physically go any lower. Hooray! However, once you are looking back up that tall, vertical mountain, you might be feeling a slight loss for motivation to trek on up.

Do not worry. We have all been there. And our versions of rock bottom may come in all different shapes and sizes.

For example, maybe rock bottom for you was losing your job. Maybe it was getting dumped. Maybe it was cheating on your diet for the fourth day in a row and thinking it was a good idea to venture onto that cold, tear jerking scale. Or maybe, it was finishing Harry Potter for the first time and not knowing what else to do with your life (we’ve all been there, trust me).

Whatever it is, and however big or small, the path to greatness is up; and as hard as it may seem, you can do it.

Here are some tips and tricks on how to take those first few steps up that mountain, no matter what your situation is:

  • write down goals for yourself, and make sure they meet these requirements-
    • SPECIFIC: goals have a greater chance of being achieved if they are targeting a specific area of development; the more specific you can make your goals, the greater chance you have of accomplishing them.
    • MEASUREABLE: to achieve your goal, you must have a concrete way to track your progress; this would involve time, weights, sizes, job titles, etc.
    • ATTAINABLE: making sure that your goal is achievable is very important so that you stay motivated along the way. While we must all strive high, we must also make sure that it is possible to achieve our goals.
    • REALISTIC: similar to attainable, making sure your goal is realistic within the parameters (resources, knowledge, or time) that you are given.
    • TIME: your goal must have a target deadline that you can strive to achieve it by, this is a date that gives you enough time to achieve goals, but not too much time that it will affect motivation.

Example of a “SMARTS” goal:

“I want to get back on track by losing 15 pounds. I will do this by running 3 times a week, lifting every Tuesday and Thursday, and eating clean. I will give myself 3 months to lose this weight and then I will reevaluate my goals.”

  • Give up distractions
    • this could be social media, netflix, or hanging out with that one influential friend who always wants to do something crazy!
  • Take a break from negativity
    • Negativity plays a big role in your seat at rock bottom; so begin by ridding yourself of negative people, negative shows, negative jobs, or whatever in your life puts a bad taste in your mouth. By stepping back from these stressors, you will better be able to find sources of light in your life, as well as creating it yourself.
  • Breathe
    • Meditation is a huge factor in regaining self control, self worth, and motivation. I will have another blog post solely dedicated to this vital skill we all need to master.
    • Until then- check out the app, Headspace, for a better understanding on how to meditate and why it is so important.
  • Exercise
    • At least 30 minutes of cardio a day will bring you huge health benefits, including increasing your positive outlook on life immensely! 
    • While I realize not everybody likes to exercise, I am currently in the works for another blog that will provide ideas for those of us who hate the word: workout.
    • Until then, increase your amazing outlook on life by going for walks when you can. Try to make it outside for a nice (short or long) walk to clear your head – at least 3 times a week. You can do this with your pup, your friend, an audio book, or early in the morning to catch the first glimpse of the beautiful day to come 🙂
  • Drink….. water!
    • Water holds a huge power over our mental health, our physical states, and our moods. By staying hydrated, you will feel better, look better, and will begin to flush out some of that toxic environment that you had become accustomed to for so long.
  • Write!
    • While not everybody has to start a blog; I would HIGHLY recommend buying yourself a journal and writing down your thoughts every, single day. By jotting down your ideas, your current moods, inspiring and not so inspiring moments, only good things can come out of writing everything down.
    • One of the times that I was struggling the most had to do with my body image; and I found a beautiful technique that helped me out, a lot:

Every morning I would go outside, look around at the beautiful world, and write down how I felt about myself on a scratch paper. Now, since I was struggling with my image, you can imagine that the things I was putting on this slip of paper were horrible, nasty things that I would never think about somebody else… But the point of this exercise was to get all of my ideas out into the open.

After writing these thoughts and opinions down, I would re-read what I had written, often times bringing a stream of tears to my eyes. I would then take a match to that horrible paper and watch my hate burn.

It was a wonderful feeling; watching my hatred for myself blow away with the wind. Then, after the last whispers had drifted off, I would immediately turn the page and write down four or five things about myself that I loved; keeping that in my journal, still to this day.

  • Love yourself
    • This last one is the most important of all. It is having the ability to forgive, move on, and love yourself once again. Yes, I realize this is also the hardest thing to do, but it will forever be the most beneficial. By loving yourself, you will learn how to be your own outlet, how to move on from your dark and dreary past, and how to be your own hero.

Once you have followed all of these steps, I truly believe that you will be sitting high on top of that (metaphorical) mountain; looking out upon the world with a new understanding, appreciation, and feeling of importance like you have never felt before.

I would love to hear back from all of you. Was this helpful? What have you had to overcome in your own life? Would you like me to explore this concept of coming back even more?

Let me know in the comments below!

As always, thank you for reading my post 🙂

Love, Sammie XOXO